Oct 11, 2021
Have you ever been in a situation where it seemed like God was
using affliction to draw you to Him? Or maybe you’re in that
situation now. How do you respond in those circumstances? In the
face of a chronic illness that seems to have no end, Karis Meier
chooses to respond in this way—give thanks.
In this episode, Karis is joined by her husband, LTC Ben Meier,
USA, and throughout my conversation with them, you’ll hear at least
three themes in their story:
First, marriage. Both Karis and Ben talk about the difficult
aspects of marriage that often come along with the commitment to
Second, patience in suffering. Karis talks about contentment and
endurance as she daily battles a disease and continually asks for
healing. And Ben shares how not being able to help Karis with her
physical health has taught him to be more compassionate.
And third, sustainability. As a couple and as individuals, Karis
and Ben talk about practical applications that have helped them on
their marriage journey.
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Karis’ blog, Suffering Well.
As you listen to their story of military life at the
intersection of faith, family, and profession, here are 4 questions
to reflect on:
- Seasons of change can often be difficult to adjust to. Karis
talked about not only the change that comes from being newly
married, but also the “new culture” of military that she had to get
adjusted to and the start of what has been a mysterious illness.
God brought Psalm 121:1 to her mind (“I lift up my eyes to the
hills. From where does my help come?” ESV). What verses of
Scripture have helped you during difficult seasons of change?
- Ben said that his 15-deployment to Iraq and Karis’s multiple
health struggles were “opportunities” God used to grow their
marriage, “to force us to learn to communicate in ways that we
weren’t doing well,” and it was an experience “brought us to our
knees and to each other.” Why is it so hard to communicate with
others, especially spouses or family? What factors play into the
difference between really communicating as opposed to a
- Read 2 Corinthians 1:8-9. Have you ever experienced a health
issue or life challenge that has rendered you feeling burdened
beyond strength, even despairing of life itself? Why do you think
that even then, the tendency of humans is to rely upon ourselves,
to find satisfaction in things other than God? What does that say
about us in our walk of faith as Christians?
- Prayer and worship together, developing a key support system
around them, and a 10-minute couch time to connect. Karis and Ben
talked about specific and practical ways they’ve incorporated these
disciplines into their marriage and family to help navigate the
challenges stemming from Karis’ ongoing health issues and Ben’s
career challenges as an officer in the Army. What are some of the
ways that trusting in God makes it possible to confront the
problems of life? Or does it? If not, what do you rely on